13 - Friend, Next two chapters Please!


I knew it! My fellow bloggers can’t wait any longer to read the next two chapters which I typed it down. I wrote here what is all about together with my opinion about some topic on how to be a great friend. Enjoy reading the Chapter 2 and 3 bloggers. 


CHAPTER II: Be Sensitive

Two friends must be sensitive to the needs and limitations with each other. According to this chapter studies have shown that there are undeniable healing properties in physical touch. For example a handshake is a signal of closeness and caring for each other. On the other hand if gestures are important then the power of our tongue is more powerful. According to one of the Chinese menu "Flavor your speech sweeter and a little less sour.” Words are not the only important but how we say them is just as important. Everyone desires to be appreciated and affirmed so we verbalize our feelings to our friends but when we are having a conversation with them we should remember that no one should hold on to the ball of conversation very long. We must be aware that we should also listen to them about their own point of view and do not be selfish, there might be a tendency that your conversation might get boring as it goes along. Talking too much must also lead to say things that are below the limits. According to this book one way to damage a friendship and make other friends wary of your loyalty is to talk negatively about a friend to others. They may later wonder if you are talking negatively about them too. In able to be a good friend we must be sensitive to our friend's preferences and some issue regarding to their family. We should be sensitive to the schedule loads of our friend when meeting with them. Both parties in friendship should strive to be flexible and be willing to make mutually beneficial compromises for the sake of friendship. Sometimes we think that our friend prioritizes other things than us but we should also know that we must not act as VIP (Very Important person) to them. Mature individuals like mommies do also have circle of friend yet each of them is sensitive to the issue of children and those who are not pet hater must be sensitive to those who are pet lover.


CHAPTER III: Be Supportive

The third chapter includes our ability to become supportive to our friends. It is important to make yourself available when your friends have occasional needs. There are some instances that an individual preferably share their feelings to their friends rather than to their family. According to this book good friends will want to reciprocate your kindness when you have a need. Showing support to or friends is also important base on this book because showing your support can boost their confidences within themselves and in this case you are able to improve their personality. According to this self-help book friendship is a two-way street. Take turns in giving and receiving support. This book also quote George Elliot from what he had wrote "What do we live for if not to make life less difficult for each other?” Sometimes our friends experience problems and we should always be beside them when going through hard time because true support of a friend can help ease the burden. It is important that we assure our friends about the ideas they share to us and so we create a safe place to share ideas. With this we can make them feel safe by encouraging and sharing their ideas. It is as well important that we seek out mentor especially from adults because they are the one who experience lots of thing already.

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